Friday, May 14, 2010

I got an award! :)

I’ve been visiting blogs but not posting on my own…. I’ve had nothing earth-shattering to say… :)

My daughter did surface at Chowchilla and got a letter out. That made me smile. She has apparently hooked up with the other O.C. girls there and is making the best of her situation. They’re sharing shampoo and stuff until she gets access to the money she had put on her books in jail which should follow her up…. At that point she can shop commissary and pay her friends back or barter with other things, etc.

She has been told she may be able to finish her basic two-year college degree there, since she only lacks 6 credits. She’s trying to get more information about that. I REALLY hope that happens. She has difficulty with math and that is one of the subjects remaining – so maybe she can tackle that and get it out of the way!

DH has softened a bit. He went out and took the list the prison provided of allowable stuff, and bought her two pads of lined paper, some plain white envelopes, simple plain greeting cards/white envelopes, and 40 stamps… He even found one of those “can’t be torn” envelopes and it’s all ready to go (padded envelopes are off limits.) We’re not sending much else.

We’re debating the glasses situation. She is currently wearing disposable contacts (not legal there) and not taking them out. BAD. She’s done damage to her vision in the past by doing that. She’s close to legally blind in one eye anyway, and very, very near-sighted.

California in its wisdom insists that she have an examination there, and then we have to put money on books for her to pay for glasses to be shipped in, or perhaps she can ship their prescription out to us and we can have glasses sent in. The fact that she has a legal prescription right now, in my house, is irrelevant to them. I don’t understand that, especially since some people I know wore their wire-rims in, and others have had family mail in a pair. Consistently inconsistent, just because they can! That seems to be the motto of the prison. I will tackle that issue next week, by calling the prison myself to get a straight story.

One high note: Her letter stated she is required to see Mental Health. AND, continuing to see mental health will be a condition of her parole. So for at least a year after she gets out – she has to accept and cooperate with medication/mental health treatment. Or she is violated. Yay! This was rumored before she went up, but she said in her letter that for sure, this is fact.

It has taken innumerable incarcerations and one prison stay to get my state to recognize that she can’t be trusted to make good choices regarding her mental health care. FINALLY. I can’t tell you how happy that made me. It gives her a fighting chance for at least a year after release. Release date is still up in the air, but she should be given an official date soon.

In the meantime, I’m continuing to TAKE CARE OF ME. I have made myself face the fact that wallowing in depression and eating inappropriately are no longer an option (that’s what I do after detaching…. I let go, let God, and head to the pantry!).

My life is whizzing by, and obviously, all our days are numbered. I had better get myself in shape and treasure my health, by taking care of myself, or I’ll have even fewer days! Plus, as my transcription business is continuing to slow down, I am looking forward to getting additional part time work, next year, outside the house at night or on weekends! I need to be able to look competent and fit, next to those spring chickens I’ll be competing with!

So, I’m trying to stay on my eating plan and I’m plodding around the reservoir, sometimes twice daily.


Sometimes not at all. But the goal is once and hopefully twice daily! My efforts are paying off, as my blood sugar is normalizing and my scales have begun moving in the right direction! Actually, the left direction…. But you get my drift!

Progress, not perfection!

Sherry from Awakening through Love
( gave me an award!

And here are my answers:

1. What would your perfect day consist of?

Good coffee, a walk on the beach, lunch with my daughters, an afternoon quilting with my friends, a dinner with the whole family, and either games around the kitchen table, or talking with everyone on the back patio by candlelight.

2. How would you describe yourself if you were an item of clothing?

A favorite teeshirt, somewhat worn around the edges, but comfortable!

3. What hobbies are you currently working on?

Quilting (always!), sewing for the house (valances, small appliance covers, dog beds, etc), and after I got to the cash register and found out the Mother’s Day card I had thought was so cute and simple cost a whopping $5.99, I have begun making my greeting cards again with my scrap-booking supplies.

4. Walking in the woods in wellies or bare foot on the beach?

Barefoot on the beach, just inside the edge of the water!

5. Have you ever hugged or sung to a tree?

I have hugged and kissed a tree! It had gotten too big, was tearing up our sidewalk, had completely killed the lawn with roots running along the surface, and the only way to fix the situation and have a bit of grass was to remove it…. Since it shaded my living room, I was rather fond of it, even if it was the gangliest, ugliest tree around…. I have a picture of me kissing it right before they started whacking it down. Cos I’m weird!! :)

6. Growing your own veggies or nipping to the supermarket?

Growing my own!!

7. Have you found anyone exciting in your family tree?

Cyrus McCormick! Come on, now, you remember your U.S. History don’t you? Here’s a link to Great-great-great-great-etc-etc-granddaddy Cyrus…
He invented the mechanical reaper which allowed farmers to at least double the amount of crops they could handle…. I know, too cool! (yes, I’m kidding!)

8. Slap up meal in a posh restaurant or fish 'n' chips from the wrapper?

Neither – I prefer making dinner at home with my extended family and keeping the ingredients simple, fresh and sending them all home with leftovers for the next day.

9. Which element do you most resonate with, Earth, Air, Fire or water?

I guess earth, since I like gardening.

10. Do you believe in fairies?

Fairies are becoming an interest of mine. My daughter always loved them, but what got me started was little Gnome doors. I was looking at some of those in a magazine and saw fairy houses. They are horribly expensive, so I plan to make my own, but I think it would be really cute to have little houses mixed in with the flowers in the borders, just for fairies…. I found some fairy doors too that I would love to put in interesting places and I’ve found solar things that light up little fairy statues….

Be warned! Stay away from Plow and Hearth’s web site, seriously! (

They are responsible for my new fairy interest and it’s dangerous!

Thanks Sherry!

I’m thinking by now that a lot of you have also been tagged with this award, so I will just put this up for grabs and say, please do this if you haven’t already, and post on your blog! I’d love to read your answers!


  1. That's great news about your daughter's mental health requirements! I loved some of your answers - especially the "fairies" one! Have a great weekend!

  2. Oh you made me laugh!! Let go, let God and head for the pantry...Lol.
    Me in a nutshell lately. I'm an emotional eater and I have really got to get a grip because my health problems are beginning to really affect my quality of life.
    I wonder somtimes if this isn't sort of like it is for my daughter...I'm in a certain emotional state and try to talk myself out of eating, but then I begin to obsess. I try to justify to myself why eating whatever it is would be a good idea but when the rational part of my brain keeps interrupting I just shut it down and stop thinking. Because it's getting in the way of what I want to do. Then I eat...Sometimes it's like a fog rolls in and I can barely remember what I ate at all. Then comes guilt, remorse, shame and (shudder) the bathroom scale.
    Anyway, I wonder if that's the same sort of mental processes that addicts go through...
    Thanks for making me smile today. Nice to know I am not alone in this struggle.
    And glad to hear about your daughter's mental health needs being met. Terrific news!

  3. stay strong and hope you're gentle with you this weekend. YOu need that.

  4. Your answers to the questions show a woman who knows herself and knows how to take care of herself. It sounds like your daughter will be getting the help she needs so you are now free to take the time for yourself. It sounds inviting when you look at it that way. (And, not that it is good for you. That NEVER works for me.)
    Enjoy your garden (and the fact that you daughter is safe and getting her mental health care needs met.)
    xx kris

  5. I love reading your blog, you have such a way with writing!
    Oh my, what a great idea to make greeting cards - I have TONS (part of a wall full, including 9 of those "white scrapbooking cubes").

    "(that’s what I do after detaching…. I let go, let God, and head to the pantry!) I couldn't stop laughing - REALLY!!! :) That is sooo me, I am going to use that one myself!!! I have just started logging my food on and tonight after dinner I had to manually enter: 2 hershey's melts, 3 marshmellows... etc... I figure if I only have a few of many small things it's somehow not so bad... and THEN I SEE the daily calorie total!!! Everyday it says I reached all my goals for protein, carb etc - but some how I go over on the calorie and fat goals??? hmmm????

    That is awesome about the mental health services for DD2! It sounds like her attitude is as positive as can be, that's good. I know, I know, but I would end up getting her the glasses... Whatever you decide, I hope you and DH are on the same page!

    Love & hugs!

  6. Glad that your daughter is getting some help. I enjoyed your answers too.