She left rather unexpectedly Friday night, to "spend the night with Le Boyfrind at a hotel." She made it sound like this was "for Valentine's day" and for one night only. She also had alluded to some changes that had taken place at Boyfriend's house, as far as the boys staying there, etc.
I mentioned I wasn't sure that was a healthy idea, but that it was up to her.
The next day, she texted her sister that they had gotten the room for another day.
Then on Sunday, she texted her sister the same message.
Monday evening, she sent the same message, only said she was staying at his family's home.
She answered Le Boyfriend's phone this morning and this time confirmed that she had stayed at his family's home last night.
Only problem? I spoke with his mother. Both of us know our addicts are lying. (Now there's a surprise!?) His mom says they (she and her DH) are done. If Le Boyfriend is using, he's on his own, kicked out, no support. She, too, is tired of this rollercoaster wrecking her life and her health. She is diabetic, like me, and this wreaks havoc on our blood sugars.
We're probably on the same page ("if she's using, she's out of here"). I can't say that for sure, as my husband is at work and unaware of this morning's conversation with the other brokenhearted mom. He has been so sad the last couple days. It was his wish to bring her home from jail and "send a message about how much she is loved and wanted". Only, once again, she's "not done."
I'm numb, calm, and oddly, more concerned about my husband and oldest daughter than anything. DD1 has GOT to keep it together this semester. That means, we have to keep it together in front of her. She does fine until she sees us disintegrate. I've been sitting here watching my husband worry himself into being ill again. He brought home half a dozen roses for each girl and a dozen for me Saturday and was talking about how nice it was to have all his girls with him for Valentine's day.
And now he opens that door each morning, and there her roses are, with the card he painstakingly chose, never seen by her, beside her empty bed. He wants so badly to believe that everything is okay.
The focus remains to take care of myself, my husband, and encourage DD1 to do the same. I will continue to pray for DD2, that she will come to her senses and find the guts to go to a detox, or that she will be arrested! By her own admission, that is the only way she has been able to stop using in the past.
Back to work for me!