I was reading Lou's post of 10-31-09 ("This Is What It Is" is the title - sorry, I tried four times to imbed a link and Blogger is not liking me tonight!)
Anyway, it was about the impact of one child's addiction on his mother, and her five foot imaginary circle.... her comfort zone, and I think that mother was maybe alluding to being afraid to trust him, his current sobriety, whatever....
Lou ended with the comment: "The wariness has penetrated all that I believed in about being a mother. It is here to stay."
I've never known if there was an author for the following little rhyme, and I can't recall what incident caused someone to share this with me, but it has stuck with me since I was very young. I've thought of it more than once, in the years of dealing with DD2's addiction, when we'd work at building up trust, only to have it broken down again....
Friendship is like good china,
beautiful, costly and rare,
when broken, not easily mended,
for the crack is always there.
I've found variations of this all over the internet, but no author. For me, my own version substitutes "trust" for "friendship".
(but still, we have hope!)